A one-night stand is nothing to be ashamed of. You should be proud of it. Cramming a mini-relationship based on attraction and minimal conversation into less than 24 hours is a feat.
And there's no need to lie about it because you're in good company. According to data from Durex's 2003 Global Sex survey, 50 percent of the nation have enjoyed one-nighters. For those of you who haven't, here's what I learned from one evening's events.
Sex, while beautiful, is one of the most vulnerable states that we can put ourselves in. And if you're not sexually confident, you could end up with mixed emotions or solo hand motions.
Attaining confidence is the first step to getting what you want in and out of the bedroom. And while I had the confidence outside the bedroom, sex made me insecure.
I was scared of trying new positions, of looking fat, of being too freaky. I had to make sure Victoria's Secret was guarding my goodies, and a French pedicure covered my toes before any action happened. I was thinking way too much. I was so caught up in preparing for the action that I couldn't enjoy it.
But finally, during a tussled, messy, hot one-night stand, my confidence came. Going into the situation, I decided to check my inhibitions at the bedroom door. Being in that room with that sexy stud allowed me to be wild despite my insecurities. I took control, I rode, I danced, I stripped, and I wasn't worried about pleasing anyone but myself. It was empowering.
The boundaries of that relationship made me feel sexy and gave me the chance to embark on whatever bedroom stunts I desired. Those hours freed me from my sexual stress. After that, I didn't care about matching panties or fat rolls. Sex became fun.
While confidence rooted in a one-night stand is probably not what the doctor, pastors or family ordered, it helped me out. I found more than sexual confidence. Before that night, I thought certain people wouldn't ever have looked my way. But after, I finally realized that I was pretty enough, smart enough, talented enough, cool enough.
While a one-night stand might not be your ticket to sexual confidence, it might be worth a shot. It's OK that you got busier earlier or later than some and you pushed the boundaries more or less than others. Just remember to respect yourself and only do what makes you comfortable.
