Maybe it's due to the recession, but when it comes to sex, corners are being cut.
Full-body massages have been downsized to shoulder rubs, dry humping has filed for bankruptcy and you can't find decent oral anywhere.
After a long day at work or in class, all I want is some good sex. I can feel the stress build up, but after a slew of sexual mediocrity my sexual urge has been doused. I need greatness in my life.
Good sex is more than just the insertion of a penis into a vagina. Sex is like a magic stew, it's about giving and taking, using the right amount of creativity, with the correct dose of spontaneity and an overflow of passion to produce a recipe you'll love.
After a little introspection on past experiences, I realized that my top three sexual encounters were memorable because of amazing foreplay. Not necessarily hot-body oils and tantric massages, but mental foreplay, in addition to soft kisses, tight squeezes and passionate nibbles.
It is well known that foreplay is the &ldquolYellow Brick Road" to orgasm. And if we're on the same ride - then great sex is the destination.
So, why isn't everyone anxious to bring out the whips and chains, suck toes or lick the chocolate syrup off of normally concealed body parts?
The answer: Time. According to the most recent Durex survey, the average couple spent 20 minutes engaging in foreplay.
Well, I guess I'm way below average then. Twenty minutes - already my little head is calculating. I don't have time for that. If I wanted to be proactive, I guess I could schedule an hour for sex into the Blackberry before work, in between studying or during my break. But that's a little excessive.
What I'm saying is that it gets easy to get caught up, but foreplay (like sex) gives the bodies a chance to release, unite and explore. Sex is amazing when done correctly, and it shouldn't be cheapened with half-ass foreplay tactics. It gets easy for two people to get stuck in a repetitive sexual rut, but there's a way out.
Relax and use every minute necessary to get to orgasm number one…two…or three…. Because what else would you rather be doing than having great sex? Nothing. So, let the clothes slide off and enjoy your life - you owe yourself.
