"Girls" is a comedy about four New York 20-somethings who struggle through relationships, career choices and other basic life issues. Blah, blah, blah it’s basically "Sex and the City" for young adults.
Like "Sex and the City," it has much knowledge to offer young women: Living in New York isn’t always fabulous. You are not always going to end up happy. And getting HPV is scary, it sucks and you need to get it checked out.
But what about the lessons it can offer boys? Here’s what guys can learn from "Girls."
Let’s get the basics down: Hannah is the main character. She’s kind of pudgy and very sensitive. Marnie is her best friend, who is gorgeous but a total control freak. Jessa is Hannah’s other friend, a traveler and a little loose. Shoshanna is Jessa’s cousin who tags along and says really shallow things that always make sense.
1. He’s a man, and he knows how to do things.
Booth Jonathan is an artist that displays his work in the gallery Marnie works for. He tells her that the first time they hook up might be a little scary because he is a man and he knows how to do things. A girl’s first thought is, “Whoa, what does that mean?” Her second thought is “I want to find out.” Being a little assertive with a girl is good. Sometimes boys stall for too long and it’s annoying. Girls want a guy who knows what he is doing because who wants to be with someone who is clueless. Booth Jonathan’s lesson is to be confident.
2. “I want someone who wants to hang out all the time, and thinks I’m the best person in the world, and wants to have sex with only me.”
That about sums up every desire any 20-something-year-old girl has ever felt in a relationship. Some girls are more demanding, and ask for gifts, money or for you to hang out with her family, but this is the bottom line. We’re looking for exclusivity, we want to be princesses and no matter what any girl says, we don’t want to share. We share because we have to, but a relationship shouldn’t be cookie time in kindergarten. Don’t make a girl share you.
3. The phone call
Hannah goes back home to Michigan to hang out with her parents for a weekend. While she’s there Adam, a guy she’s been seeing on and off back in the city, calls her up at night to chat. It’s a fun, relaxing moment between the two. Guys, call your girls up. Ask them what is going on in their lives and how their day was. Tell them something funny or stupid that your roommate did. It’s so annoying to have to be waiting for guys to text back, and it’s nice to speak with someone you like instead of staring into their words.
4. Did she know Adam from AA?
There is a point toward the end of the season when Adam and Hannah hit the carrying capacity for their emotions. Hannah complains that Adam doesn’t tell her details about his personal life, and Adam blows a gasket. He explains that he is not going to chew her ear off about his problems. She never even bothered to ask him, so why should he randomly bring it up? This is more of a lesson for girls and kudos to guys: If you happen to find out your boyfriend had an alcohol problem he never mentioned, consider the fact that you might have never asked him about it.
5. “It’s so rare to find two such different, but at the same time equal, beauties.”
Marnie and Jessa meet a man named Thomas-John at a bar. He buys them a drink, and they can tell he is rich. They go home with him to check out his pad. Out of nowhere Marnie kisses Jessa as they lay in Thomas-John’s shaggy run. He’s into it, but little does he know that neither of the girls is into him. He gets upset after trying to tag in and being rejected. Guys, girls will do things that will tease you. If they don’t invite you to join the fun, they want nothing to do with you. Thomas-John throws a fit and kicks the girls out, and in the end he’s alone. When you lure girls in with money and materials, you end up alone. It’s the gold digging rule.
6. “I don’t want to be without you.”
If you are going to watch any episode in the show, make it season two episode 5. You don’t need to know anything about the show to enjoy it. Hannah meets Joshua who invites her into his home where they proceed to live in a fantasy world. He makes her steak and they play Ping-Pong, drink lemonade and do some other fun stuff. You don’t have to be hot, rich or have a fabulous brownstone in Brooklyn for a girl to be attracted to you, though it helps. You just have to be nice and sweet. Patience is important because girls can be difficult. Above all, be genuinely interested because nothing is more attractive than someone who wants to know you. Funny and smart helps, too.
