When we care about something, we grow a special attachment to it. Sometimes it’s your dog, and that moment when he chooses to go to someone else instead of you eats you alive. Other times, it’s your boyfriend, and when you catch his eye wandering toward the freshman at 101 Cantina, you’re ready to pounce.
Some people think a little jealousy is cute. A little joke about who you’re texting here, a little smirk at the guy checking your girl out there, it’s OK because you’re showing your significant other how much you care about them, right? Wrong. Jealousy is dangerous, and unfortunately we all get it from time to time.
"Relationship," by Radu Chibzii (1992)
Here’s what you can do to keep that little issue from turning into a big one:
First, remember you’re in a relationship for a reason. If your girlfriend is your girlfriend, it’s for a reason. She chose to be with you, and that’s the end of it. If your boyfriend took you to your favorite restaurant last night, and tonight he’s hanging with the bros, step away from the phone. Let him live. Everyone has a hunch when their relationship is going down the drain, so trust yourself, and know that if you feel like things are fine, nine times out of 10, they are.
Second, when you’re feeling a bit of frustration coming on, don’t take it out on your special someone. Call your best friend, if he or she is really your best friend you’ll hear how ridiculous you’re acting and see a new perspective. Most of the time, a problem comes from jealous rage and results in an avoidable break-up.
Calm down friends, college is too short to waste your time worrying about what your boyfriend or girlfriend is doing every night.
